Crash

Crash had to be one of the most heart fulled movies I have ever seen.  It was such an amazing movie that you can learn about from.  They had basically every race in the movie and how they really deal with their lives and the racism around them. My favorite character was Michael Pena, who played Daniel.  He had to put up with Sandra Bullock's racist comments that were said right in front of him.  But he's is not your stereotypical Mexican. He is something more.  He is trying to make a living for his family and protect his daughter from all the violence that takes place in LA. He is such a good father to his daughter and the "invisible cloak" seems to work when the shop owner shoots his gun.  I'm still shocked by the whole movie as a whole because I really enjoyed it.  There were so many heart stopping moments, but then you were able to be relieved once they were over and nobody was hurt.  That is except when the cop shoots the captain's baby brother.  Thomas had some what redeemed himself when he stood up for Mr. Howard, but that completely went away when he  used his racist instincts and shot the boy because he thought the boy was getting out a gun.  That was by far the saddest part of this movie. But overall this was an amazing movie and I am very happy we got to watch it.

Social Class

This week I learned a lot of new things about social class.  A lot of these things I have never really thought about because they come as a second nature to me.  The projects really opened my eyes on how people live in our country.  My group had the upper class, so we had no stress picking out our lifestyle for our family of five.  It's amazing how we did not have to worry about any money or life happens cards because we had so much money.  So we bought a beautiful house in Lake Forest, which would be anyone's dream house.  We also made sure our kids had good clothes, education, food, and activities going on.  On the other hand, the lower class had some stress creating a lifestyle for their family.  They got the worst of the life happens cards and could not even give their child a birthday party, which is something we have all taken granted for.  It makes me sad to think that there are plenty of people living out there pay check to pay check.  And that there is a gap between the richest of the rich and the poorest of the poor, and to me it's really sad to think about.  I learned a ton also from the video we have been watching in class.  I still can not get over how "white wonder bread" goes along with social class.  Poor people want cheap bread and do not care about the health benefits, so they won't buy the 9-grain bread or anything that seems remotely healthy.  And then you have Thomas from the WASPS group who basically thinks he is the S***.   He looks down upon everyone else, but that is the social class he knows- upper class.  I was thinking about it, and it must be hard to legitimately be a social class climber.  Imagine going from lower-middle class to upper class.  That has got to be a hard transition, you need to learn so many little things you have never thought about.  Such as how close you can stand to people or how to dress or what kind of food to eat.  It's CRAZY! 

the 99%

This poor woman and her husband are both unemployed and can not find any jobs.  Her husband is a "master carpenter" and has not been able to find a job in three years!  They have a child, and she takes pride in making sure he is NEVER hungry or (too) cold.  She is trying to do the best she can for her family and finds deals wherever she can to make ends meet.  I think that since the husband is clearly a good carpenter he should be able to get a job as one.  He is qualified and could make a living by doing what he has learned to be.  This person knows she is unfortunate with money and nothing can go wrong or else she will loose it all.  She has to raise and garden her own food to provide for her family.  It is really sad to think about how she has to live with providing her own food and using wood to keep her house warm.  It's terrible that her husband can not find a job even though he is good at what he does.  I wish the best to her and everyone who is in a similar situation. 

She is unemployed and has lost her home because of her mother investing in the real estate business.  She has been abused by her real father who killed her step-father and got away with it.  She has overcome so many struggles in her life except for these issues.  She even went to school to be a nurse and finished.  But guess what?  They let her go for NO reason at all.  This poor woman worked so hard to overcome her previous obstacles and can not get a job even though she is qualified for one.  She should be able to get her job back or even a new one.  Nurses are needed, even though she believes they are not.  She has been through so much and has worked for her own American Dream.. which she only got for six days.

This person is without a job and can not find one.  There should be equality for everyone providing people with jobs, even if they are part time jobs.  People need money to survive and the government is not providing it to people.  This person knows they are unfortunate and to get out of their situation this person wants to commit suicide. This statement makes me extremely sad that people are so frustrated with the economy that they would rather die than be homeless and unemployed.  I want the best for all these people and they deserve help. 

Your Coffee Is On Me :)

I really wanted to do something out of the box for my positive act of deviance.  I really wanted to make an impact on somebody's day and make it better for them.  But to be honest, I could not think of anything super original and I just did not have the time to come up with something really cool.  So, as original as it is, I bought the person who was behind me in line their coffee at Starbucks.  When I walked in I was actually really nervous.  I am an extremely friendly person, but not always to random people in stores.  I was worrying that maybe someone would not walk in after me, so I would not be able to buy them their coffee.  Luckily I walked in, and told the cashier that I wanted a Tall Skinny Vanilla Latte.  And right as I was  about to pay, an older lady came in line behind me, who i'm guessing was about fifty years old.  I told her, hey what are you going to get?  Your coffee will be on me!  She was so confused and asked if I was talking to her.  I told her yes with a smile on my face, don't worry I got you.  I gave the cashier $12 and told her the lady's coffee was on me and to keep the change for herself.  I then smiled at the lady and walked over to the other counter.  I got my drink, and told the lady to have an amazing day!  The lady said thank you to me a couple of times and said I was such a sweet girl.  As I was walking to my car, I could not stop smiling. It felt so good to do something out of the ordinary for someone, and I could tell the lady was shocked but she had a smile on her face and was really nice.  I know it was a small act, but I really hope it made a great start to her day.  And  even though if it is a small thing, maybe she will "pay it forward" and the chain of random acts of positive deviance will continue on and make everyone's day just a little bit better.  This act of kindness is not a norm in our society.  It is very rare to pay for someone else's purchase, especially that of a stranger.  I would love for this to happen to me, not because I would not to pay for something, but because it is something so unexpected and just a nice thing to do.  I think our society needs to think about that, that little things make a huge difference in someone's day.  Just saying Hi to random people in a store or street can make someone's day that much better.  

Female, Male, Both, Neither?

This week in class has been one of my favorite weeks so far.  This week really made me think and reflect about something that seems so simple-being masculine, feminine, or both. Although we watched a lot of videos in class, each and every one of them really made a clear point.  I personally, really liked the According to Gym episode.  The show portrayed males as pigs, conceited, forgetful, sexual, athletic, insensitive, rude, and competitive. The episode then portrayed women as the complete opposite of men making them, sensitive, talkative, social, concerned about weight, clueless about sports, and needy. This look at men and women as completely opposite goes hand and hand with what the narrator was saying in the movie Gender Codes. In Gender Codes they compare the way men and women pose for pictures.  Women tend to have canting postures, which include being off center, knees bent, leg(s) up, faced sideways, head tilt, and arms on the body.  These poses all put women is a position of being vulnerable, defenseless, and accepting submissiveness.  On the other side men pose completely different, with their head low, hands in the pockets or folded, and confident.  They are NEVER off balance or pictured laying down touching their face. The reason behind this is because if men were posed like women, the message of the add would come off as a homosexual add, which are extremely rare.  These poses along with what Goffman calls "ritualization of subordination."   These poses are how we perceive males or females to be because of the media, and gender codes.  As it turns out though, these codes have changed. Both men and women have become objects of desire for the opposite sex.  The physical appearance such as big chested, muscles, athleticism, and clothes have become what we want in our partner.  We want to have the most attractive spouse.  Because of this, as shown in Killing Me Softly, women and men want to look like the models shown in ads even though we know it is impossible because of all the editing.  Women think that men are judging women, but in reality the women are more judgmental than the men.  The media has effected our gender roles greatly, and as Cindy Crawford could not have said it any better, "I wish I looked like Cindy Crawford."

Poor Kids

The movie we watched was extremely interesting, yet disturbing.  I never really realized how much the media gears their products towards kids.  And it ends up that these products help make us who we are.  There are no longer just movies or TV shows, there are items that come along with them.  Kids are easily accessible to their favorite TV show's clothing, toys, lunch boxes, and snacks.  The marketing industry has realized that if kids really love a certain show, the kids will want anything associated with that show.  Kids want the stuff that is expense as well because they value expensive things such as designer clothes and high-end toys.  The Industry also is getting information about kids in a very creepy way.  They would film and observe children with their friends, in grocery stores, and while in the bathroom (shower and toilet).  I think this was morally wrong to basically stalk a kid just so you can take their money.   This really upset me.  And at one point in the movie, an interviewer was filming a  bunch of girls hanging out.  She told one of them about what she was doing and told the girl not to inform her friends about it.  This is teaching this poor girl at an early age to lie to her friends and not tell them everything.  Which in the end leads to being a bad and untrustworthy friend.  Another terrible thing about all this advertising for children is the images they feel they must portray.  For girls, they are to be sexy and pretty like the girls from Bratz.  This image leads to young girls wearing inappropriate attire and thinking at an early age that that IS how they are supposed to look.  For boys, they need to be tough and violent.  Boys are into their video games with tons of violence and think that is how they are supposed to act.  These images of boys and girls are making our youth conform in the exact same ways creating essentially violent and "slutty" girls. The marketing industry should not be so interested in these kids, it is wrong and creepy how serious about their jobs get.  They are supposed to be child experts, so why do they need to give them bad role models and essentially stalk them?

I'm Me

My family, mainly my mom and dad have socialized me.  What I have found out not only about myself but my family is something that I do not think about on a daily basis.  Right off the bat of me being born my parents, especially my dad, had high expectations for me. They wanted for me to live a happy and healthy life.  To be honest, I never really knew why as a child I was always participating in new sports/activities. I just thought it was normal to have gymnastics, softball, soccer, ice-skating, basketball, dance, reading programs, story time, park district classes once a week.  The real reason behind all of these activities was that my parents wanted me to find my niche.  They wanted me to figure out what I had a passion for and made me happy.  My dad wanted me to be an athlete, while my mom would prefer a more girly route like a dancer or skater.  Either way, they wanted me to learn what it was like to enjoy what I was doing.  Now that I look back at those years of my life, I am extremely happy I got to try basically every sport and I found the one I love- basketball.  They also really pushed the core values of my family onto me as well.  As I was interviewing my mom, I was shocked about some things she said.  I never really thought I looked or acted like my parents.  I always thought I was on my own boat doing my own thing.  As it turns out, my mom sees a lot of not only herself but my dad also in me.  This shocked me because I've never saw any of these qualities until she pointed them out.  She says I am like her by being stubborn and having a warm heart.  I am like my dad by having high expectations of myself and those close to me and being high maintenance.  Even though this was quite shocking to find out, it made me happy  that I have both my parents' characteristics.  My parents have made me, me.  In my family,  we do not have a lot of family traditions, but my mom would love for me to carry them on once I have a family.  All of traditions have to do with holidays.  One thing within only my family is that we have an "elf village."  After thanksgiving my mom, brother, and I set up our village.  Each year we get a new edition whether it is a house or accessory.  We have been doing this since I was a little girl, and I can not wait to "auction" off our collection between my brother and I, so we can start our own villages with our families.  Every Christmas eve, we celebrate with our immediate family and all gather together.  My mom really wants for me to stay close with my family and continue this tradition on.  The last thing my mom would love for me to carry on is my grandma's cookies.  On Christmas eve, my grandma gives us five coffee cans filled with her delicious cookies.  These cookies are made with "grandma love" and no one makes better cookies.  If you ask her to make them any other time of the year, she will automatically respond with no because they are for Christmas time only!  My mom wants me to start making them once I am older, and to keep the tradition going.  Overall, it is true that family is the most important socializing agent to making someone who they are.  If it was not for my parents, I would not have the passion I do for basketball, the personality I have, or the traditions my family carries.